Many women continue to ask the same question – about finding a Nice Guy.   How does a sincere woman go about finding one?   How do you verify that he is, indeed, a nice guy?  How do you land him?  These are not new questions; they were asked by your mothers.   There does appear to be increased urgency in finding the answers to these questions.   Some women complain that there are just not enough nice guys around; that men seem to have hardened and become shallow.  This can certainly be said about women too.

So, what does a woman strategize against in spite of how difficult it might be?   How does she go about doing this – finding a nice guy?   The answers are relatively clear and simplistic and they will probably not come as any surprise when you hear them.  The guidelines for women who really want a nice guy are below.  If you are contemplating an attempt to get ex back from a breakup, how he rates on this scale may aid you in your decision.

You rarely find nice guys in saloons or clubs.   The kind of guy that most women want can still be found where your mother looked.   Nice guy search venues are still the same ones:  Churches, Libraries, Softball Leagues, Volunteer Groups, and Gymnasiums.   Locations like these are choked with quality people – of both genders.

When you locate a potential nice guy, how do you proceed? Once you have found a nice guy – what then?  The next step which has normally been recommended is to make contact and search for common interests.   We believe, however, that a first step should be added that precedes the obvious one of contact.   This is the ‘nice guy’ screening process and every guy you meet should be dragged through this screen.  It is simply a process to determine if the guy could possibly fit into this category in the first place. 

This screen includes everything from dress, to speech, to mannerisms, to eating habits, to lifestyle.  As an example, his appearance should reflect a genuine concern for how he looks.  

When you talk with him, his speech will present an educated, warm and quiet confidence rather than a coarse, loud and profane man.  After those initial tests, find out how he feels about women in general and what kind of relationship he has with his mother.

Once you have determined that he probably is a nice guy make contact and find out his name and how you can contact him.  The steps following this are all yours to take.  Your second level screening needs to include serious assessment of his career goals, lifestyle, education, drug use, diet and exercise, and family interests.   All these tests, taken together, will confirm or reject this man as being or not being “Nice Guy” material.

A thorough understanding of these concepts might, indeed, help to decide if you want to get your ex back.  If you are trying to recover a broken relationship, your dedication to win your ex back, will be heightened by knowing how he ranks on the ‘nice guy’ scale.